Reviewed Date: December 4th, 2021
I am always fascinated to read books on ‘Self’ and on the question ‘Who Am I?’ I should say, though I find it too abstract in some areas, it’s a good read.
Today more people die by suicide than from wars, terrorist attacks, and murders. The reason is we all are trying to be social perfectionists. When we fail to be ‘one,’ our self-esteem falls to the ground, and we feel defeated and ashamed.
Take an example: men feel they have to be protectors, providers, fighters, and winners. And, if you break one of these, you are not a man. Also, real men aren’t supposed to show vulnerability.
If men are not living up to these golden standards, they feel defeated and start to blame themselves. They lose faith in their abilities. In other words, they try to escape from the ‘self.’
Some people have narcissistic perfectionism. In this category, people believe they are capable of reaching heights but become vulnerable when they get to know they can’t reach them.
But we couldn’t accept it. That’s where we follow ‘Perfectionist Presentation,’ a tendency to put on a false front of seeming perfect, where you cover up your mistakes.
It’s like, ‘Here’s my perfect self; take a look at it.’ Most young people indulge in this phenomenon as they feel pressure to keep up with others.
This isn’t a full review. I feel there is so much to talk about; that’s why I am breaking the review into three parts. I recommend this book if you are interested in the concept of ‘self.’
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