Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray

Reviewed Date: May 17th, 2023

One thing I liked about the author is that he is self-conscious. He didn’t promise that this book would solve all relationship problems nor that the book’s contents would relate to everyone. He said if you don’t relate, take family counseling or look deep within yourself. I like the honesty.

I will be straightforward. The book is not complete trash. Of course, it has problems; I will address them too. The book tells us to be attentive to our partner’s needs, how to solve arguments, acknowledge the differences, and understand what they say. But these are the only good things.

The main problem I have with this book is that it assumes humans are too simple and that they are easy to fix. Although some people fall into the stereotypes and advice in the book might help, I think largely this book is irrelevant to the times we live in. This is outdated.

In the book, the author says women don’t care about success or achieving goals; their primal focus would be on the communication of feelings and relationships. Those things are important, no doubt. But women have ambitions and goals, and they want to make a difference. Saying they don’t, it’s just sexism.

I recommend this book to know how far we have come in the matter of 3 decades. The author had spent 7 years researching about the book, but some studies get updated, some are discarded, and some studies bring new information. Keep this in your mind: don’t absorb everything you read. Question it, and verify it yourself.