Reviewed Date: September 27th, 2021
We are not what we think we are. There is so much depth to ourselves that we aren’t even aware of. We may think we are rational and always make good judgments, but our past tells another story. We may think we are empathetic and understand people at a deeper level, but our relationships prove otherwise. What really happens is emotions we repressed as we grew up come to the surface and stir us while making decisions.
If we think we are above all others, it would be difficult to get into another person’s shoes and see things from their perspective. After achievement or temporary gain, we feel grandiosity and absolute power. As much of our success comes from people around us, it isn’t a wise choice to bring up the envy in others; they wish for our downfall. With deep-rooted flaws, biases, and unmoving convictions, how can we bring the best from ourselves and thrive in the world?
The answer lies in close introspection of ourselves. What situations trigger what emotions? Where are these emotions coming from? Is there a backstory to that emotion? Do I brag about my achievements or listen to another person attentively in a conversation? What are the mistakes I made? Is there a pattern? Am I making the same mistake again and again? When it comes to criticisms, am I rigid to others’ opinions, or do I consider them before taking a decision?
Remember that initial observations can be wrong. We may quickly jump to conclusions, as being rational is tiresome. In these moments, we have to be patient, knowing ourselves in a long process. Also, consider the fact that we are in continual flux. The assumption we made about ourselves would become obsolete with time.
Don’t be naive in thinking that people would be nice to us. While interacting, keep a distance and evaluate if what they say matches with what they are doing. People are good at disguising; knowing what they are up to eliminates the drama.
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