Reviewed Date: October 5th, 2021
In the course of our lives, we meet several people of several varieties. As our success mostly depends on people in our lives, it is best to associate ourselves with the right people, good intentions, and supportive ones. Well, it is not as easy as we think it is.
I happened to read this book at the right time. I had just joined college and was getting exposed to people. It would be an understatement if I said this book helped me meet good people and make good relationships.
I am an introvert. It is obvious that I have difficulty opening up myself to new people; blame my shyness. When I pay a visit to parties, I mostly stand in the corner and observe people as if they are a movie. But this has changed since I read this book.
Before even having a conversation, we can say whether the person is likable and trustworthy. Our brains decode the signs that other people are sending towards us. In other words, non-verbal clues. 70% of our conversations are non-verbal. If we pay attention to their expressions, gestures they use, and standing positions, we can tell whether the person is a friend or foe.
To make a good impression, during our talks, we should bring novelty to the questions we ask. Conversations become boring when we ask questions they might have answered a thousand times. If there is a novelty, dopamine sparks in their brains, and we will most likely be memorable.
Also, we tend to boast about ourselves in the conversations like a radio. Instead, listen to what the other person is saying and find out what he/she is interested in. Most people have stories they want to tell others; sadly, no one listens. Be the one. Another person will feel heard.
‘Being an amazing listener is not just about what you hear; it’s how you respond to what you hear.’
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